If you have read my writing before, you already know that I am a huge fan of compliments. I believe in giving them honestly and freely. I believe in receiving them with trust and graciousness. Just recently, I received the best compliment I have ever received. My daughter Luna is 10 years old and during an essay test she was asked “Who do you admire most and why?” My daughter responded by writing an essay about me. Here is what it said:
I most admire my mom. She is funny, smart, pretty and she is very nice. My mom is a CEO, she is a writer and she is the owner of a company. I would like to be an author too when I am an adult. I think my mom is funny because she tells funny jokes and always tries to make me laugh. My mom is nice because she is polite and because she donates a lot to goodwill.
My mom likes to work a lot and she works very hard so that we can go on trips, have a nice house, have a well trained good dog and on making sure that we are safe and happy. Sometimes I get mad at my mom when she punishes me (it does not happen often) but later I realise that it is usually for a good reason like lying or being mean.
I love and admire my mom, and that is why.
I choked back the tears as best I could (pretty unsuccessfully) in front of my husband and the teacher when she shared that paper with me. My hands were trembling when she handed me my copy, as she mentioned that teachers don’t usually share these with the parents- but in this case she couldn’t resist.
My daughter never knew I was going to read her thoughts, and that made her words even more powerful to me. She hadn’t painted our relationship as perfect, and this doubled my belief in her sweet words- because what relationship is perfect?
I will treasure this paper till I die, and I’m going to add it to the compliments I have written down on slips of paper to read when I need encouragement.
Often, compliments are made more special because of the love you have for the giver. My daughter is 10 years old and her teenage years are near. I’m sure that soon there will be times when Luna won’t have many nice things to say about me. But for this precious moment she thinks I am very close to perfect, and I treasure it. I recognize that her job over the next 8 years will be to grow into her own independence. She may soon grow to see her peers as a stronger network than her family; but for this moment, she admires me. What a gift I have been given!
It is my turn to write my essay entitled - Why I Love My Daughter.
Why I Love My Daughter
by Eve Mayer