I’ve discovered the secret to taking a compliment . . . Shut up!
Over the last 5 years, I have perfected a rare skill. When someone offers me a compliment, I have the ability to graciously accept it. I call this a rare skill because this is how I hear people (usually women) respond to a kind compliment.
Compliment - “Damn, you look fabulous, today!”
Typical response- “What?! I only got 4 hours sleep last night, and I just gained like 10 pounds. My hair is so flat today, ugh!”
Compliment - “You rocked that presentation today with the CFO!”
Typical response- “Are you kidding me? I had no idea what I was doing, and I didn’t start prepping until 2 hours before we started. PowerPoint is not my forte, and I totally botched the ending.
Have you not received any compliments lately? Perhaps it is because you have trained the people around you that you are incapable of accepting them.
Here are the Three steps to accepting a compliment:
Listen carefully to the person offering the kind compliment. Accept that it is likely true.
Show gratitude with a thank you
Promptly shut up!